Apologies if this is on the wrong board. I have been posting on reconciling
However its looking more and more likely that its failed or failing. Short version- he had an EA and sexting last year. There's been ups and downs since.
But all of a sudden, recently WH has said to me his feelings have "changed" because of what hes done and how im not moving on from it, his behaviour has become detached. Hes also going to some work socials despite me not liking it and causing me a lot of anxiety because the OW will be there also, so in close proximity.
The way he is behaving Its like he is pulling away, and the ow is to blame and still in his head. Hes ok one minute then the next not, but im the same really.
Ive asked him if hes still talking to her via WhatsApp or messaging (ow is 15 years younger than him, no kids, work colleague, dont see each other much f2f at work) and he denies, which i know is common.
We have talked and we have both said we arent happy, my reason is trust, his reason is just he isnt and because of 'what's gone on" πππ
Some days we are getting on other days his mood is off like something is really bothering him (guilt????!!!)
Im just absolutely heartbroken and im scared im losing him to her despite all the denial. My gut is telling me shes still all over him. That would be the worst thing for me. Id rather him just leave and be on his own and we seperate then leave because of her. π
I have been doing the pick me dance it seems since last year, not anymore!!!!
Something isnt right π
[This message edited by Kittycatkitty at 6:07 PM, Tuesday, March 31st]