maise (original poster member #69516) posted at 8:11 AM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
Shes 15. I caught her boyfriend here and made him leave. This was the second time.
She and I got into an argument after I made him leave. She then settled down and went to her room. I went in to check on her and saw that she left out her window.
I called the cops and they confirmed her boyfriend is also a runaway. He’s 16.
I’m so scared. I am supposed to be sleeping and getting ready to go to work tomorrow and I can’t even function thinking about the dangers she could be in. I don’t know what else to do right now. I’m not okay.
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:16 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
Oh goodness how frightening.
Prayers and mojo you hear from her soon and that she returns home.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:11 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
Also sending mojo.
I suggest telling your boss you're dealing with this.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:30 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
Prayers for her safe return.
The issue is if he’s not a good guy and you try to shield her from him, the more she will want to be with him.
Get her home. Get her counseling.
She’s "in love" and just not maybe seeing the reality of it all. Some girls are just attracted to that bad boy image.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:39 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
No advice, but sending (((hugs))) and mojo.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
number4 ( member #62204) posted at 10:42 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
So sorry you're going through this! 15 and 15-year olds have grand ideas of how grown-up they are, but in the end most realize they can't make it out there without their parents. I hope she comes home today, or that you hear from her.
Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R
maise (original poster member #69516) posted at 11:43 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2025
Thank you all so much ♥️
I let my job know and worked from home for about three hours and called it. I barely slept and had a lot of emotions throughout. I got in touch with the boyfriend’s mom. She sent her son a message and got him to finally answer his phone so we got to talk to him. My daughter is refusing to speak but we’ve been on speaker so she can hear me too. They said they’re in a house and "safe". They don’t want to come home. I’ll be checking in and trying to get them (or at least the boyfriend for now) to open up a bit more so we can see if we can get them to let us know where they are and allow us to get them.
Sigh. Teens can be so hard. The dangers they can put themselves in are extreme and they’re still so immature to fully comprehend that.
It seems it’s a scenario where she’s wanting to "save" her boyfriend and to be with him. His mom said he’s run away three times now and he usually has stories about how miserable home life is for him. Daughter feels for him and wants to help. This time he ran away to here and when I kicked him out for the second time she opted to go with him.
Im exhausted. Glad they’re, or at least he is communicating though.
Thank you all so much for your support.
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
