bewuzzled (original poster member #31584) posted at 3:11 AM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2025
Hi waywards. I am a returning member, I've been gone for a long time but I thought of this site and the people I talked to, who helped me so much when I was going through Dday and then an attempted R, which ultimately did not work. I am now divorced as of 10/24.
I learned so much, I've tried to help others in my life with things I learned here, and I would consider myself a reformed wayward. I don't live a lifestyle I ever thought I would, these days, but I'm happy.
there were days I didn't think I'd survive the turmoil I caused, but I did, and I'm thriving now... took alot of time and effort though.
things can and do get better, sometimes better than you could ever have imagined.
I hope all of you I knew before, and those who came after me,are doing well and that you're happy!
fWW/BW (me) 47 now MH BH/WH MH (him) 47 (StuckOnTheFence)2 kids (25 & 23)D day #1 1/20/11D day #2 1/28/11I am seeking, I am strivingI am in it with all my heart.
NaiveWayward ( new member #86196) posted at 9:59 AM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2025
Interested to hear your story, is it posted anywhere?
WoodThrush2 ( member #85057) posted at 6:12 PM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2025
I scanned your archived posts ....what a heartbreaking story. I know you are well from what you say....but it just hurts me. I so love marriage. I believe you two had real love. You know ....God can restore it again. I am a sucker....I guess I would so love to hear you write back some day and say you remarried and have a happy ever after.....馃槩
You may have zero interest in that...selfish of me.
Regardless.....seek God's will for you. His path is the right path. 馃檹
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bewuzzled (original poster member #31584) posted at 12:09 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2025
naive waywayd, I'll try and write a summary of my journey, now that I'm back, might be good for me 
Woodthrush2, there is no chance of reconciliation. ExBH is now married to his girlfriend/ AP and I am happily involved with a man I knew from the past, that takes care of me. we've started to build a crazy fun life together!
BH and I did have a true love, we just... mismanaged it and couldn't get it back, in the end. BH told me he loved me several times, even after I sold our marital home and bought a maintenance provided townhouse for me and our son, even while dating and then moving the OW in. we just never could quite make it work, despite our efforts. it wasn't meant to be a forever love.
I have so much less anger now, than I did 5 years ago. it takes time, but it does lesson and get better. I hope it has for him too.
fWW/BW (me) 47 now MH BH/WH MH (him) 47 (StuckOnTheFence)2 kids (25 & 23)D day #1 1/20/11D day #2 1/28/11I am seeking, I am strivingI am in it with all my heart.
